This really is a situation that is truly difficult you all, made more challenging by the daughterвЂ™s jealousy of her dad.
I believe it might be better if both both you and your spouse spelled out your expectations of her as a group. This can send her the message that you and he are a definite main group, and she cannot muscle in onto it.
With her alone first, it might enhance the sense she seems to have that you and she are the inner circle, and your husband is the outsider trying to be included if you were to speak.
It seems like a great deal to show and expect from a young child, but i’ve always believed вЂ“ and found вЂ“ it is we who are unsuccessful. Our youngsters are designed for much more them credit for, if only weвЂ™re willing to take the risk and reach out than we give.